Once you and your partner have been together for God knows how long and practically spend most of your time with your loved one day-to-day, there is a fair chance that the thought of moving in together has crossed your mind. It definitely crossed her/his mind, that is for sure.
Granted, it is often easy to get caught up with the positive aspects of the idea of moving in. But however sweet and romantic that might be, one must realise that moving in with your significant other is a big deal not only towards your relationship, but also for yourself.
While finally getting to live with your partner can be exciting, there are a couple of things that you must prepare yourself mentally before committing to this huge step in the relationship.
1. Seeing your partner at her/his grossest
Remember those days when you don’t shower on the weekends? Or slob around the house watching “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” while greedily munching on cheesy nacho chips? Or drinking milk straight out of the carton? And there was nothing to worry about because nobody, including your SO, was watching you. Well, they are going to see those now since you are living under one roof. Even if you try to act all clean and macho and pretty, give it a month. You will be back at your disgusting state in no time.
2. “My” space is now “our” space
Finally getting to be around with the person you love 24/7 may seem like the most amazing thing ever, but don’t get ahead of yourself just yet. There will be times when you just want to be by yourself without being interrupted by anybody. Your partner must understand this and accept that personal space does not mean rejection. It is just a way to strengthen your relationship from being too forceful.
3. You are going to argue more
Moving in together is a huge adjustment. It is a learning process as you get to know your partner’s habits and ways in their daily life deeper than anyone else. Therefore, there will be times when you will disagree on such trivial things such as doing chores, taking out the thrash, and many more that will lead to an argument that is even unnecessary.
4. Willing to compromise
Sure, his surprising amount of skincare for men products is not normal and her excessive collection of fridge magnets is too much, but at situations like these, it is important to compromise with one another. Be it their weird hobbies, their occasional OCDs, or deciding where to move the sofa, the both of you must learn to accommodate each other to come to an agreement.
5. Your flaws are on full display
By the time the both of you are ready to move in together, you should already be accepting and comfortable of your SO’s flaws. Because you are going to see a lot of it every day. The same goes for you – your ugly cry face, the little piglet snore you make during sleep; all the things you want to hide from her/him, will be out on full display. So, make peace with them and live together naturally like you normally would.
Have you moved in with your boyfriend or girlfriend yet? What was the most surprising thing about your partner that you have encountered? Share your stories in the comment section below!